No one wants to be fixed
And those who do want to be fixed, will be very disappointed.
Whenever someone is going through a tragedy, or heartbreak, or depressing times in life, or when their in a dark spot, or a place of no understanding, whether they feel lost, or confused, or both, or just completely betrayed
No one wants to hear "It will all be okay"
No one wants to hear "You'll make it through"
No one wants to hear "Tough break"
No one wants to hear "You'll find someone else, someone better"
No one wants to hear "I guess it wasn't meant to be"
Yet, that's what we all say. That is what most of us expect to hear.
When really, all people need, and all people want, is someone there, to listen. To keep passing kleenex, keep packing bowls, keep lighting cigarettes. Because, the fact of the matter is, though some people do in times like these, all the person wants to know is that their not alone.
That someone is there, going through it with them, and sitting beside them, not trying to fix them, or make them better, but to just grieve with them. We all have to be given the right to be pure miserable sometimes, that's when people grow and learn the most.
And those who do want to be fixed, will be very disappointed.
Whenever someone is going through a tragedy, or heartbreak, or depressing times in life, or when their in a dark spot, or a place of no understanding, whether they feel lost, or confused, or both, or just completely betrayed
No one wants to hear "It will all be okay"
No one wants to hear "You'll make it through"
No one wants to hear "Tough break"
No one wants to hear "You'll find someone else, someone better"
No one wants to hear "I guess it wasn't meant to be"
Yet, that's what we all say. That is what most of us expect to hear.
When really, all people need, and all people want, is someone there, to listen. To keep passing kleenex, keep packing bowls, keep lighting cigarettes. Because, the fact of the matter is, though some people do in times like these, all the person wants to know is that their not alone.
That someone is there, going through it with them, and sitting beside them, not trying to fix them, or make them better, but to just grieve with them. We all have to be given the right to be pure miserable sometimes, that's when people grow and learn the most.
there's a story in the bible about a guy named job (pronounced jobe, haha.) and he loses his wife and children, his money, his resources, everything in one day. and his friends have absolutely no idea what to say or do, so they just sit with him for 3 or 4 days in complete silence. i think you're probably right about what ya said. i'm still going through a bit of heartbreak (it used to be a lot worse, i'm getting so tough. too tough) and i like it when people share their experiences with me. ya know what i mean? i like when people listen to me tell my story, and then i hear theirs. and almost every every every single break up story has a happy ending. all you gotta do is wait your turn. like youuuu diddddd! thanks for the post. hope yer enjoyin summer kidd!
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